'Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right’ (Henry Ford). An interesting, inspiring and empowering thought with which to begin the new year… Do you have good intentions of using January to create a fresh chapter? Having recognised any unwanted patterns of behaviour you want to leave in the past, it’s worth thinking about what you’d like to replace that old habit with. By learning from past mistakes in a positive way - you can use your previous experience to create building blocks to improve, recognise your progress and enjoy each mini milestone.
Face the direction in which you want to go. Visualise your preferred outcome and forecast success in detail. What is the first small step towards making your aspirations a reality? When is the next opportunity you can find the time to do this? Imagine the difference it’ll make and how you’ll benefit. Who else might notice?
Language is key so choose your words carefully because your brain is listening. Pay attention to what you want (e.g. to remain calm, to drink less alcohol, to eat healthily) instead of what you don’t want (e.g. to lose my temper, to drink to excess, to comfort eat). Be conscious of how you express yourself to others and also how you talk to yourself. This is an exciting opportunity to communicate more effectively, take back control, enhance your wellbeing...
Think about which of your existing qualities, skills and strengths will be helpful. What would you highlight as your best attributes in a job interview? Would your friends or colleagues describe you as a problem solver, creative, determined or maybe they value your sense of humour? Now concentrate on what you hope to achieve - does it seem more possible?
Psychologists believe that understanding your values is an effective way to prioritise, make decisions and achieve your goals. I wonder which of the following resonate most with you? Humour, Peace, Kindness, Justice, Fun, Safety, Honesty, Courage, Stability, Loyalty, Creativity, Equality, Trust, Independence, Spirituality, Communication, Love … Make your own list, reflect on how well you’re already living your life and add more meaning and impetus to your resolutions.
If Henry Ford is right (and I think he is), then your attitude will determine success or failure so a ‘can do’ mindset is essential. If you’d like help with self esteem / confidence and motivation please get in touch to find out how Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can benefit you.
Anything’s possible,
Katherine.
BA (Hons), DipSFH. Reg AfSFH, CNHC, NCP