The medical definition of the menopause is the 365th day after your final period. The average age is 51 for women in the UK. However, this transition from one life stage to another can take many years and impact your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. It may start in your mid-40’s, possibly younger, initially manifesting as feelings of an identity crisis with irrational thoughts, mood swings and fatigue. And this is only the beginning …
I wonder what a difference it would make if you discarded the horror stories and refused to allow this natural progression to alarm, restrict or define you?
You may be lucky and find it a breeze but understanding and preparation will empower you to choose your version of this experience. Perhaps you’ll decide to use Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) however it’s key to also recognise how you can help yourself. No doubt you’re already an expert juggler, having managed the best interests of your home (and family) life alongside your career. These skills will continue to be essential. But it’s equally important to enjoy the ability to switch your brainwave activity to restorative rest.
Did you know that Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming can improve your mental and emotional health and boost your physical resilience during this time? Utilising the brain’s natural ability to adapt and rewire, I teach my clients a combination of practical tools, visualisation techniques and deep relaxation to help acknowledge, reframe and ease any symptoms. Even with brain fog, it’s possible to reduce levels of the stress hormone cortisol, lower anxiety levels and improve concentration and memory. Imagine dispelling feelings of overwhelm, vulnerability and isolation to regain emotional equilibrium. You may also find you sleep better and learn how to cool down a hot flush. If you’ve noticed unwanted weight gain you can alter your attitudes and behaviour to reduce alcohol intake, make nutritious food decisions and increase your motivation to exercise.
Understandably, and for many reasons, you might be aware of a sense of loss - this can lead to renewal when you switch your focus to regain positive purpose. When you’re experiencing a shift in hormones, unresolved trauma might bubble to the surface or unexplained fears or phobias may stop you in your tracks – this is a golden opportunity to acknowledge, process and release any uncomfortable negative energy to allow you to move forwards freely.
I encourage you to bypass your inner critic, embrace self compassion and be kind to yourself during this time of change. Affirmations which validate your values will ground you and redirect you towards acceptance, gratitude and confidence wherever you need it – whether it’s in the bedroom or the boardroom!
Stay cool, calm and collected. Celebrate this new chapter,
Katherine.
BA (Hons), DipSFH, Reg AfSFH, CNHC, NCP